Rule #4: Three thousand word minimum - Part 2

If a picture tells a thousand words, then

     like many of  my essays in university,

there’s a three thousand word minimum

Three pictures

Three glances

Three impressions

Three opportunities to get an idea of what they look like.

And this is where I get myself in trouble…

(if I haven’t already)

First

a disclaimer,

I’m not saying one body type is better

More attractive

than another

I do firmly and honestly believe

that people of all shapes and sizes

can be

and are

beautiful.

But with that being said,

we all have our preferences. 

Some prefer girls with curves,

others prefer skinnier girls. 

Some prefer muscle bound men

Others prefer skinny men in skinny jeans with thick glasses and a beard

This doesn’t make one better than another

Does admitting this make one shallow?

or

is it just being

Honest

The truth is

No matter what people claim

No matter what people say

Looks are important

Attraction is important

It’s why guys get in trouble for glancing at pretty women

It’s why girls 90% of the time won’t date guys shorter than them

It’s why you so many people are in the ‘friend zone’

The number one reason I haven’t dated any of my close male friends

Is because I’m straight

And so I don’t find them attractive

That doesn’t mean they aren’t

For me, the same can be said of girls

There are things I find attractive

And things I don’t

A relationship without any physical attraction

Without any sexual chemistry

Is called friendship

And there’s nothing wrong with that.

Only caring about looks is shallow

Thinking someone is worth less

Not worth your time

worthless

Simply because you don’t find them attractive

Is disgusting

But admitting that a healthy relationship

Is a healthy mix of attraction

Physical

Emotional

Spiritual

To their personality

And to much much more

Is an honest and beautiful thing

Now if I expect the girl

to be stick thin

with huge breasts

then I’d have a problem

just like a someone who only wants guys

 6’3 or taller

with rock hard abs

and able to do one-handed push ups

there are preferences

and then there are unrealistic expectations

I think (hope) you get my point.

So when looking to find someone to date

To fall in love with

I don’t think its wrong wanting to know what they look like beforehand

Not to mention

if they’re trying to trick you about what they look like

There are other

Deeper issues

Confidence is beautiful

So with no further ado,

The types of pictures you should look for

1-A picture taken head on

There’s been plenty written about the dreaded ‘Myspace angle’.

You know the one I’m talking about,

Often taken alone in your bedroom

camera held up high to the right or the left

If you don’t know it

Just google ‘Myspace angle’

And there will be a plethora of pages to educate you

There is something mysterious and mystical about this angle

It has the power to turn anyone into a supermodel. 

Through the miracle of lighting and angles

a simple self photo can trick you into thinking you have a date with Ryan Gosling

but you end up meeting Billy Bob Thorton

2-A real/candid photo

If all of their photos look

Professional

edited

or involve them only in a suit or a fancy outfit

Tread lightly

Sure they look great, but the odds of them looking that great all the time?

Unlikely

Unrealistic

Unattainable

We all have our days when we look nice

But that’s not the

day to day

reality

And in the end you want to find him or her beautiful

Day in

Day out

Both when they’re dressed to the nines

or when they’re just dressed

even in sweatpants

3-A body shot

No, I don’t mean them posing

On the beach

Barely dressed

Or a pinup picture

That’s better suited for a calendar

But a picture that’s from further back

that shows what they look like

from head to toe

Not everyone makes it that easy though

So you try to make due

Gathering clues and hints where you may

One of the biggest

Being the upper arm

There are skinnier people with rounder faces,

and curvier people with skinny faces

so it may be hard to tell exactly what they look like

unless you look at the upper arm

It’s rare that it lies

Except for some guys,

There are many guys who only work out their arms

Making it look like they’re buff and in shape

Meanwhile they only have bulging biceps

While a beer belly hides down below.

Remember

These are just guidelines

And I can’t be held responsible

for any surprises you may find

In the end even with all the above pictures

You still can be deceived.

Ultimately they are the one who chooses their photo’s

And since people are highly unlikely to choose bad ones

you can pretty much expect your date to not look quite as good as they do in the photo. 

But hopefully,

If you’re careful

When you’re out on a date

And the full moon rises

They won’t turn out to be something

Quite unexpected.